There can be many stressors when it comes to raising children. It can put strain on you emotionally, physically, and intellectually throughout all the child’s development stages. There’s just so much to take into account! From providing for the child: with a home, and other resources, to raising them, to making sure they learn all they’ll need to in order to have a successful life it can be overwhelming.
There is also the fact that parents can raise children differently. Differences in spouses can be brought out more, which, if utilized correctly can bring great strengths to your efforts, or it can become a setback that causes more family tension.
What is really important when raising children, is making sure you have a good support system, when available. Your first person that you should be able to turn to is your spouse as you both work together to for the benefit of your child or children. Because you two are generally the most involved in the child’s development process and have their best interests at heart, you can work together to find the right parenting style for you both.
Others such as family and friends who have been in similar situations can help give you by sharing experiences and advice as well. There are also a number of other support groups available to parents in the form of lectures, specialists, and councilors.
There are three basic overall styles of parenting that help shape a child. Authoritarian parents “exercise maximum control and provide minimum warmth.” They set ground rules which they enforce.
Permissive parents “provide little or no guidance or rules.” They are more the child’s best friend, than an adult that can discipline, and teach a different way of doing things. They are more likely to concede to a child living however the child wishes.
Authoritative parenting style “provide warmth in the context of clear expectations.” They help children understand expectations. They are very loving and encouraging and encourage children to “control their behavior moderately while allowing them to express their opinions and develop their own decision making ability.”-Marriage and Family The Quest for Intimacy by: Lauer and Lauer
It has been proven through different studies that the most effective form of parenting is the authoritative style, though there are pros and cons to each of the styles. As you parent, take the time to think of what is best for your child or children, love them enough by being available for them when you can and strive for the most optimal style of parenting that will help them have successful lives.
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